With so much unexpected time at home this year, it’s easy to confuse it with making time for yourself. However, when you factor in some remote work, distance learning, canceled vacations, altered schedules, and extra home projects you’ve committed to, you many not be making much time for you. If you thrown yourself and family into extra cleaning, organizing, decluttering, and fix-it projects, it’s important to remember that the reasons for being organized is to save time, sanity, and provide peach of mind. Whether you read a book or take a walk, it’s important to take time to enjoy life and appreciate all that you’ve accomplished.
Schedule time on your calendar to block it off, whether it’s as time allows or on a regular day and time. Don’t let other things interfere with your time and do what you can to keep it as scheduled.
Depending on what season of life you’re living, you may need to get creative with carving out a few minutes to yourself. It’s easy to think that because of the season of life you’re (or someone else is in) it is easier or harder. In fact, everyone can find time or excuses. Try to be the one who finds time. Your body and mental health will appreciate your commitment.
“Oh, You’re Single!”
If you’re young, single, or married without kids, make sure you don’t overextend yourself. It’s easy for other people to be full of your energy and assume you have endless amounts of time to volunteer. It’s great to be involved, but remember to say “no”. Not being married or having children does not obligate you to give away all your time!
“The Kids Demand All My Attention”
You didn’t have children so you could become a chauffeur. While it’s true that parents will be all things to their children as their primary care givers, it doesn’t mean that saying “no” once in a while is a bad thing. If you don’t take time for yourself, you won’t be good for your kids. It’s very easy for things to spiral out of control. Ask for help if you need it. Use the time wisely that you can carve out. If you are blessed with 30 minutes alone, don’t waste it cleaning the cat box or paying bills.
“Yeah, the Kids Are Old Enough to…”
It’s wonderful when the kids are old enough to jump in the shower, make their own cereal, and get themselves off to school. Your new found “freedom” may tempt you to take on new roles that people have been hounding you with for years. Be choosey. Select things that you enjoy to be a part of. Look for opportunities that are family friendly, so you still get time with your kids and spouse. Schedule some downtime for yourself and put it on the calendar. Don’t wait for that magical day in the future to get a pedicure or a haircut. Time is short.
“So You’ve Retired”
Have you talked to more than one person who’s said “I’m more busy now than when I was working”? Really? Do the things you enjoy, spend time volunteering or watching the grand-kids, but for heaven’s sake make time for yourself! You have the ability to block off whole days, weekends, or weeks now, so do it! Visit the relative you’ve been missing. Take a drive. Sit in the sun. And most importantly, remind your friends in other seasons of life to remember to take a little time for themselves!